We all know that tough times cause stress. We all know that they strain relationships and emotions, and that the emotional toll can spiral quickly out of control. A large number of suicides come from those facing extremely tough situations both financially and emotionally.
Hardships or tough times can come in many forms. Divorce and break-ups, deaths in the family, a loss of a job, and much more. In the case that I am referring to, it is the death spiral in this economy following the loss of a job.
After the loss of a job, and the inability to find another to replace the lost income, the home may come up to the chopping block. Whether you own your home and pay taxes, still pay on the mortgage or rent a property from someone, you feel the burn. Sometimes, in the worst cases, you end up having to move. Hopefully to a place that is cheaper, sometimes in with friends or family.
If you move in with friends and/or family, that can strain the relationships with those people. You may be best friends when not living together, but once under the same roof and having to deal with them 24/7, little things may bug you. Or you could end up knowing them better than you ever wanted to. There really is such a thing as being around people too much. And the rules they set because it is their house, those may be too strict or too lax for your tastes. It really isn't easy living with someone else.
Then there is the subject of negativity and positivity. If the people you are around in your hardest times are not positive, it really makes things that much worse. You have to work twice as hard to stay upbeat and keep that go-get-em attitude. Sometimes, that seems impossible. Sometimes, most of the time in fact, people tend to cave under the negativity and become depressed, bitter, irritable, etc. This isn't healthy for you or your loved ones. They don't deserve to get snapped at or ignored because you're upset.
I have found that in my current situation, my emotions have turned negative whether I wanted them to or not. I lost sight of my goals and just wanted to doggy paddle to keep my head barely above water instead of swimming with my all to get back to shore. It really isn't easy to stay upbeat in bad circumstances, but you have to try. You have to be thankful for every little thing you DO have instead of mourning the loss of the luxury. Letting negative comments and personalities wash over you and away like water off a duck's back is easier than it may sound, but you have to TRY. I have to try! I have to get up each day and smile that I was able to wake up at all, that I took breaths, that I took steps, that the birds are singing a beautiful song. That I have a job, a car, a man who loves me, a daughter who is smart and taken care of. I really need to remind myself daily of all the blessings I DO have and not what I DON'T have.
Things DO get better. I have to believe they will. I didn't tattoo my wrist with the word believe to just let the concept fade away. The tattoo won't fade, neither should my faith in it. Yes, this blog is a sort of pep-talk for myself. Yes, I needed it drastically. I had started snapping at my fiancee and the people who were gracious enough to let us live with them. None of them deserve that. And even though they are negative a lot of the time doesn't mean I need to be. Writing a daily entry in my written journal may help me get the negative out without taking it out on others. And exercise! Walking again will help both my health and my mood, as I need to remind myself daily. So...before bed each day, I will take a walk around the block and write at least one page in my journal. That sounds like a peachy plan to me!
To those that read my ramblings, thank you. For those that choose to be supportive on top of reading, you are so priceless to me.
Hardships or tough times can come in many forms. Divorce and break-ups, deaths in the family, a loss of a job, and much more. In the case that I am referring to, it is the death spiral in this economy following the loss of a job.
After the loss of a job, and the inability to find another to replace the lost income, the home may come up to the chopping block. Whether you own your home and pay taxes, still pay on the mortgage or rent a property from someone, you feel the burn. Sometimes, in the worst cases, you end up having to move. Hopefully to a place that is cheaper, sometimes in with friends or family.
If you move in with friends and/or family, that can strain the relationships with those people. You may be best friends when not living together, but once under the same roof and having to deal with them 24/7, little things may bug you. Or you could end up knowing them better than you ever wanted to. There really is such a thing as being around people too much. And the rules they set because it is their house, those may be too strict or too lax for your tastes. It really isn't easy living with someone else.
Then there is the subject of negativity and positivity. If the people you are around in your hardest times are not positive, it really makes things that much worse. You have to work twice as hard to stay upbeat and keep that go-get-em attitude. Sometimes, that seems impossible. Sometimes, most of the time in fact, people tend to cave under the negativity and become depressed, bitter, irritable, etc. This isn't healthy for you or your loved ones. They don't deserve to get snapped at or ignored because you're upset.
I have found that in my current situation, my emotions have turned negative whether I wanted them to or not. I lost sight of my goals and just wanted to doggy paddle to keep my head barely above water instead of swimming with my all to get back to shore. It really isn't easy to stay upbeat in bad circumstances, but you have to try. You have to be thankful for every little thing you DO have instead of mourning the loss of the luxury. Letting negative comments and personalities wash over you and away like water off a duck's back is easier than it may sound, but you have to TRY. I have to try! I have to get up each day and smile that I was able to wake up at all, that I took breaths, that I took steps, that the birds are singing a beautiful song. That I have a job, a car, a man who loves me, a daughter who is smart and taken care of. I really need to remind myself daily of all the blessings I DO have and not what I DON'T have.
Things DO get better. I have to believe they will. I didn't tattoo my wrist with the word believe to just let the concept fade away. The tattoo won't fade, neither should my faith in it. Yes, this blog is a sort of pep-talk for myself. Yes, I needed it drastically. I had started snapping at my fiancee and the people who were gracious enough to let us live with them. None of them deserve that. And even though they are negative a lot of the time doesn't mean I need to be. Writing a daily entry in my written journal may help me get the negative out without taking it out on others. And exercise! Walking again will help both my health and my mood, as I need to remind myself daily. So...before bed each day, I will take a walk around the block and write at least one page in my journal. That sounds like a peachy plan to me!
To those that read my ramblings, thank you. For those that choose to be supportive on top of reading, you are so priceless to me.
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